Being a Black woman is a double-edged sword that is skillfully crafted and delicately balanced. On the one hand, we have been honed and sculpted into powerful, independent women who can look after ourselves and our loved ones, while still creating significant works of art. On the other side, there are times when the pain of our forced invincibility and independence pierces so deeply that an endless stream of blood, sweat, and tears flows.
Overuse has made us dull, but we still shine. After all, Black women are the only things to grow without nourishment. Yet, despite our incredible achievement, this precarious balance shouldn’t have become our norm. With protection on one end and potential danger lurking around the other, we shouldn’t have accepted this balancing act as the ultimate truth. If we stop considering the blades of this sword as an inevitable outcome, it may lose its edge.
Therefore, rather than being content with the fact that we were injured one moment and recovered the next, we should want to fully heal ourselves to avoid engaging in this dangerous balancing act. To make sure our healing is effective and less risky, here are the top self-help/self-development books to help every Black woman set these blades aside to become someone where their overuse is never necessary.
‘Daring Greatly,’ ‘Atlas of the Heart,’ and ‘The Power of Vulnerability’ by Brené Brown
‘Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead’ by Brené Brown
Brené Brown’s holy trifecta, in my opinion, are these three books. These self-help books detail how shame and fear have influenced our behaviors and, in turn, our lives, with each book building on the one before it. However, these books don’t only bring to light our flaws or fear of being flawed, but they provide us with information on how to escape its stifling hold. Whether it is daring to be great (Daring Greatly), choosing vulnerability in moments of uncertainty (The Power of Vulnerability), or understanding our emotions and why they are felt (Atlas of the Heart), Brown’s readings will help you develop by finally allowing you to understand yourself and why you behave the way you do.
‘Atomic Habits’ by James Clear
‘Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones’ by James Clear
Atomic Habits is a self-help book that I admit took me a while to get to, but as time passes, I find it’s one I love the most. Atomic Habits offers readers suggestions on how to maintain easy habits that will gradually add up to …….